Boundaries

Boundaries come naturally to some people. But there are those of us who wait are entire lives to be taught healthy boundaries (took me over 40 years) because we were either not brought up in households where the were. There could have been abuse in our childhoods crushing any boundaries we were taught or we had abuse in our adult relationships making it impossible to have healthy boundaries. There are other reasons such as some just don't learn or grown up slower. No matter what your situation forming healthy boundaries at any age is imperative. Frankly having boundaries doesn't all of a sudden make you a bad person. It actually makes you the opposite. You don't become the bitch or asshole because you suddenly start saying no when someone has crossed the line (cancel cancel I will teach you that one later). Or asked you for a favor you can't or don't want to fulfill. If you wouldn't have been able to do it anyway and had said yes you would have looked bad. If you would have said yes and done it then most likely you would resent them because you didn't want to do it in the first place.  Bad situation no matter which way the chips fall. Honesty is the best policy and leads you to a happier more spiritually enriched life and closer to Source. Being closer allows you so many more opportunities. But boundaries is one step on the way to get there. It may seem silly or trivial. But it is a part of the puzzle that makes the whole picture beautiful.